My first blog post on here was in 2008, and it was my mother’s recipe for mushroom rice. Yeaup, this used to be a food blog called West Coast Winos. Then I got asked to write a sex blog for Curve magazine, and I jokingly called myself Queerie Bradshaw. The name stuck.
There was a bit of time when I combined the two and blogged as Sinful Misadventures, a site that covered all 7 deadly sins, but it soon became apparent that I was not a food blogger.
Sex was my specialty for a reason: I’m really good at talking about sex.
But as I got farther into blogging, speaker, and doing interviews, I realized that what I’m really passionate about is not sex perse – although I am very passionate about that – but the things that went along with sex, what my dear friend Kate McCombs calls “sex adjacent” topics.
What I really love talking about is feeling comfortable in your body and being able to know – and communicate to your partners – your needs, desires, wants, and pleasures.
I love the major impact this blog has had on introducing people to quality sex toys, important social justice topics, and fun happenings in the sex industry. It has been an honor to speak across the nation as Queerie Bradshaw, and meet some of you in person.
But Queerie Bradshaw was created at a time when I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t: an unemotionally attached sex blogger. And try as I might, I couldn’t get the depth I wanted in life from that character, or this blog.
After my brother died, I spent a lot of time thinking about my own mortality, and wondering what I wanted to put into the world. The answer shouted to me from my gut, yelling so loudly I couldn’t ignore it.
I want to help people love their bodies, heal past emotional trauma, and embrace the pleasure in life they deserve.
For awhile, I did that here at QueerieBradshaw.com, but it felt out of sync with the more overtly sexualized and raunchy (in a wonderful way) history of this site. While I still love the things I’ve written here, it’s time for me to grow, expand, and move on.
Starting today, QueerieBradshaw.com will be an archived site. The old blog posts will remain for your reading pleasure, but all new posts will be at LaurenMarieFleming.com.
As a blogger, shedding your famous URL for a lesser known one is super scary (what about my Google ranking?! How will people find my work?! What if I lose every reader?!). But personally, it feels so right, embracing my own name, moving more towards my goals of helping others feel confident and comfortable in their bodies.
With the new site also comes some exciting new ways to connect with my readers, including:
- Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body, a 10 week intensive coaching and motivational program to help you kick the habit of self-doubt and replace it with one of radical self-love.
- Silencing Your Inner Critic, my free online course.
- Special guest speaker at a Desire Map Retreat with Kate McCombs in Tulum, Mexico, February 19-22, 2015.
I’m also still working very hard on the Frisky Feminist Collective, which includes Frisky Feminist Press. Head over to FriskyFeminist.com and check out our free educational guides, entertaining publications, and online classes – all centered around amplifying feminist voices online and enhancing conversations about sex.
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This is a sad but exciting moment for me. I’m leaping off into the unknown, and it feels good to fly.
Thank you all for six great years here at QueerieBradshaw.com. I’m excited to see you all over at LaurenMarieFleming.com.
A preview of what you can find over at my new site.