Category Archives: Personal

Question of the Day: What was your first experience with a sex toy?

Leading up to my keynote panel at Catalyst Con East – where I will be talking about sparking conversations in sexuality – I’m going to try to start some sex conversations here on the blog and on Twitter. To learn … Continue reading

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Queerie Bradshaw Does the Midwest: Part I – Saying Yes to Adventure

You don’t say no to a person like Alex. When they ask you to come along for the ride, you say yes, because yes is the only option. Adventure is subjective, a thing people seek in various contrary ways. The … Continue reading

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Rethinking Social Media, a.k.a. Good news: I’m Keeping Twitter, Bad news: I’m Unfollowing Almost Everyone

Since I took my sabbatical from social media in November, I’ve tried to stay off of it as much as possible, and let me tell you, it feels good. So good, in fact, that I decided to take a whole … Continue reading

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Good-bye Social Media, Hello Meaningful Connections, a.k.a. I’m Taking a Year Off of Social Media

You’ve probably already noticed this, but I’m going through a life overhaul and I’m taking this blog with me. There were some minor steps taken in the past, but now I’m trying to take giant, massive leaps forward towards the … Continue reading

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Being Super Gay and Romantic and Very Productive, a.k.a. Where I’ve Been

Don’t you just hate it when someone gushes all about how cute and romantic their relationship is? Too !@#%ing bad because I’m about to do that right now, right here. Swoon, I’m in love. But you already knew that, didn’t … Continue reading

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Securing My Oxygen Mask First, a.k.a. I’m Going Offline for November

I used to love November. It started with dress-up and candy, sugar skulls and Día de los Muertos celebrations; flowed into my hometown rodeo, bar-be-ques and chili cook-offs, a parade filled with grown men in little cars, the longest standing … Continue reading

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The Familiarity of Emptiness, a.k.a. May He Rest in Peace

My good friend died the night before last and I hate the familiarity of this emptiness. I hate how acquainted I am with grief, with this black hole in my soul, one that keeps sucking and sucking, compelling me to … Continue reading

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Misogyny and MakeUp, a.k.a. If You Want to be an Ally, Stop Talking and Listen

Oh Facebook. The land where radical feminists live next to redneck farmers, miles apart from each other in every way, but still neighbors on my status feed. I love the diverse opinions it brings. I love the dialogue and chances … Continue reading

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Poetry: The Life of a Lake and Mary Oliver’s When Death Comes

I promised you more poetry. I promised you more intimacy and openness. I promised you words of beauty by other poets and words attempting to be beautiful by me. Here is where I make good on that promise. I went … Continue reading

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Fat Rolls and Photos, a.k.a. Learning to Positively Judge My Image

When Catalyst Con announced that photos from the event were up on their website, I got very excited. I spoke three times and there was a professional photographer there, giving me high hopes for a new profile photo or something … Continue reading

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