The Queerie Bradshaw Guide to Buying a Harness

Queerie Bradshaw’s Guide to Choosing a Harness is THE definitive guide on how to pick a strap-on that works for you.

Or at least I hope it becomes that.

Right now, it’s the first version of what will eventually be the definitive guide on purchasing a harness. What it’s lacking is all of your feedback, suggestions, bits of advice and personal experiences.

Every body is different, so the more varied input I get, the more helpful this guide can be. 

Check back often for updates, which I hope to do bi-annually. If you have any ideas, information you think I missed, or comments in general, please email them to

I wrote this guide because I am passionate about helping others find sexual pleasure and step out of their comfort zone.

Strapping it on is a fun way to explore gender and sexuality, and I hope this guide will encourage people to experiment and try something new.

Queerie Bradshaw’s Guide to Choosing a Harness is completely free and available for download as a PDF.

Some of the topics covered in the guide include:

    • advice on soft and hard packing in public
    • harnesses for femmes
    • how to choose a harness for a larger body
    • strap-on options for people born with penises
    • pegging
    • using your harness

The guide includes easy to use links to resources, advice and products, and gorgeous photos by Courtney Trouble. 

The guide will live here at, where it will be updated at least bi-annually, and you can download it by clicking here.

The guide is currently only available as a PDF, but I hope to eventually turn it into a book. You can download Adobe Reader to read a PDF for free here.

You can also read PDfs on any Apple product (iPhone, etc.), on your Kindle through Send to Kindle (which you can download for Mac or PCon your Nook or on your Kobo. If you can’t find a way to read the guide, email

*Queerie Bradshaw’s Guide to Choosing a Harness is an educational book, you may have to be 18 to read the guide, depending on your jurisdiction. Void where prohibited.

Notice if I missed anything in the guide? Have feedback? Email