National Coming Out Day a.k.a. I’ve Got Your Back

If you are a gay, bisexual, lesbian, trans*, queer, etc. person, I’m here to tell you, I’ve got your back.

I’m ok with you having sex with whomever you (consensually and safely) want to have sex with.

I love the National Center for Lesbian Rights.

I love the National Center for Lesbian Rights. They have the best campaigns.

I’m here to say that you have worth, no matter what your gender identity or presentation.

And I’m not the only one who thinks that.

Today is National Coming Out Day.

It’s kind of like New Years Day for the LGBTQ community.

It’s a day when people make drastic, positive changes in their lives, changes they could make any other day but for some reason this day was given the societal go ahead to be the day of change.

If you don’t know already, I’m about as queer as they get.



Some of my family members took work, but most of them didn’t care if I was gay or straight as long as I’d stop pretending I had homework and help with the damn dishes.

Not all queer people are as lucky as I am.

It is estimated that only 10% of the population identifies as LGBTQ, yet 40-60% of homeless youth identify as LGBTQ.

That means LGBTQ kids are being thrown out of their homes way too often.

That means that we need to give people coming out a safe place to go.

I can’t offer everyone my home, but I can offer my little space on the Internet as a safe haven for those seeking community, whether gay, straight, queer, fag, dyke, kinky, vanilla, genderqueer, trans*, femme, butch, twink, bear, whatever your skin color or ethnicity, whatever your size or ability, whatever way you want to have sex, whatever your gender or presentation.

You have a friend, colleague, companion, supporter and advocate in me. Wherever you are, I am here to help with resources or a kind word of support.

I know what it’s like to come out in a small town. I know what it’s like to be out in a big city. I know what it’s like to live an out and proud life.

It’s hard. Even now.

But community makes it all easier. Community keeps me going.

So find your community, on this site, on Facebook, on Twitter, on Instragram or whatever social media platform you prefer. Find it in person and at events. Find and build community, wherever you can.

And if you can’t, if you’re not yet ready for that step, don’t worry, we’ve still got your back. Whether out, closeted or somewhere in between, you are supported.

You are accepted.

You are not judged.



About Queerie Bradshaw

Lauren Marie Fleming is a writer, speaker and motivator known for her intimate, informative and often hilarious look at sex, relationships and body-image. Lauren runs the critically-acclaimed blog, writes for major news sources including VICE, Nerve, Huffington Post and Curve, and is the author of her memoir Losing It: My Life as a Sex Blogger. In 2013, Lauren founded Frisky Feminist Press ( as a way to enhance conversations about sexuality through educational guides, online classes and entertaining publications. A law school graduate, Lauren has spoken all over the United States and is internationally recognized for her dynamic, engaging style. In everything she does, Lauren’s goal is to educate, remove stigmas and encourage people to achieve their desires.
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One Response to National Coming Out Day a.k.a. I’ve Got Your Back

  1. Jasmine says:

    Gurl, I adore you!

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