Leading up to my keynote panel at Catalyst Con East – where I will be talking about sparking conversations in sexuality – I’m going to try to start some sex conversations here on the blog and on Twitter. To learn more about this project, check out the original post.
This is Day 4. Check out the rest of the days here on the blog or use the hashtag #SexQOTD on Twitter.
Question of the Day: Have you ever faked an orgasm?
Sadly, yes, not often, but it has happened. Usually, I just over-exagerate my enthusiasm in those instances, but still insist on cumming, even if just minimally. Overall, though, I’m a major advocate for being honest. However, most people I ask say they’ve faked an orgasm and most people I ask don’t think anyone has ever faked one with them. So obviously faking is going on. Are you one of the fakers? Do you ever exaggerate your orgasms?
Let’s talk! Leave your answer to this QOTD here or tweet it to me @QueerieBradshaw.
I’ve definitely faked before. I don’t do it now because I’m with a partner who doesn’t shame me about the way I experience pleasure, and is into doing whatever I need to get off. And I’m also a grown ass woman who doesn’t see the point.
But in the past, I had sex with men who went on ego trips about my vibrators or implied that I was broken or wrong for “taking too long” to orgasm, or not orgasming at all – and guess what, gentlemen? All those orgasms I had afterward? FAKED.
I’m so glad you’re able to express your needs now too. I hate how much stigmas there is against vibrators and toys being used, especially in cis-hetero couples. No one is broken, everyone just wants to have fun!
A couple times when I first started having sex and was having sex with people I wasn’t attracted to. When I started having sex with people I wanted to be having sex with and having the kind of sex I was interested in having I didn’t need to fake anything. It also helped that I learned to communicate. I like to cum. I want this experience to be fun for all involved; so I have no problem communicating, now, what I like and need.