Leading up to my keynote panel at Catalyst Con East – where I will be talking about sparking conversations in sexuality – I’m going to try to start some sex conversations here on the blog and on Twitter. To learn more about this project, check out the original post.
Day 3’s Sex Question: How often do you have sex?
If I define sex broadly, which I almost always do, I have sex about twice a week on average. Some weeks we have sex four or five times, and some weeks we don’t have sex at all. My partner has a lower sex drive than I do, so often we’ll have sex by assisting each other in masturbating (“loving assist” as Dan Savage calls it), and that has helped us have sex more frequently, without the pressure of feeling like we have to take more time or energy for something other than a quickie. But we also make sure to block out time for lying in bed exploring each other in intimate ways, because we both believe that’s important to our relationship.
Let’s talk! Leave your answer to this QOTD here or tweet it to me @QueerieBradshaw.