Stuff I Love: Sweet and Rough, Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut by Sinclair Sexsmith, plus bonus giveaway of a copy of the book!

I love it when they start to dishevel. Makes me want to tangle her hair, pull at her dress, smear what’s left of her lipstick.

I think Sinclair Sexsmith has entered my mind. This is exactly what I want a butch to think when we go on a date. I want them to appreciate all of the hard work I’ve put into making myself up, then I want them to fuck it all up in a wild rage of (consensual) lust.

But Sinclair knows I want this. Sinclair knows what they’re doing to me.

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What is glaringly apparent reading Sweet and Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut is that Sinclair Sexsmith knows lust, desire, and longing, and better than that, Sinclair knows what to do with those emotions, knows how to use them against the femme-fatale, the soft butch boi, the reader lying in her bed, wishing she could jump into the pages of this book with them all.

Created from the fantasies of both Sinclair and the readers of SugarButch.netSweet and Rough is a wonderfully voyeuristic look into the mind of a sadistic butch top. It’s less rough and more sweet than I expected from Sinclair, but maybe that’s because the book’s preface – itself a great essay worth reading about kinky erotic fantasies versus actual sexual relationships – prepared me for something more risqué.

Some of it is ‘problematic,’ and I wouldn’t claim otherwise – but they still have so much value, and can jump-start our erotic engines or show us how much more can be incorporated into our erotic lives.

Still, these stories are delicious and enticing, making me deeply regret missing that one night Sinclair and I were supposed to split a hotel room while speaking at a conference at Yale. The sapiosexual in me loves the way Sinclair makes conversations foreplay, subtly bringing in discussions on gender and identity without distracting from the erotic flow.

She’s more androgynous than I am, but still more boyish than Brett, who calls herself a subtle femme. “May take a second glance, but it’s there,” she told me.

She has an eager and excited edge to her voice, and presses her leg further into my lap, twisting her torso a little to look more directly at me, opening her thighs.”I know what you mean – but if men begin to have butch identity, does that invalidate it for the women who have to fight so hard to claim it?”

Whether butch, femme, or something in between, the reader is transported into Sinclair’s world and taken along the journey to sexual satiation. A great collection of erotic literature, I highly suggest picking up a copy.

Or better yet, win one here!

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Want to see what others had to say about this book? I’m just one person in a line of (dare I call us all stellar and amazing?) bloggers on Sinclair’s virtual book tour. Check out what the others had to say about Sweet and Rough:

  • September 22 – butchontap.com
  • September 23 – alphaharlot.com
  • September 25 – wholesexlife.com
  • September 28 – dearbutchlovefemme.wordpress.com
  • September 29 – whyarepeopleintothat.com
  • September 30 – lesbrary.com
  • October 1 – queeriebradshaw.com
  • October 2 – domme-chronicles.com
  • October 3 – writingdirty.com
  • October 4 – bdswain.com
  • October 6 – thecsph.org
  • October 7 – makesexbetter.com
  • October 8 – andreshaktixxx.com

Have I convinced you to buy the book? Great! Go to Sinclair’s site and buy it directly, where they get more profits from it. (There are also links on that page to Amazon, iBooks, Barnes and Noble, and Smashwords, if you prefer to buy it somewhere else.)

Want to help Sinclair out? Read the book then leave a review on Amazon. Whether you like Amazon or not, it really helps a book to have positive reviews and high-star ranking on there.

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Lastly, remember when Sinclair Sexsmith and I answered your questions live about the sexual politics of BDSM? It was great and we recorded it for you.

 

 

About Queerie Bradshaw

Lauren Marie Fleming is a writer, speaker and motivator known for her intimate, informative and often hilarious look at sex, relationships and body-image. Lauren runs the critically-acclaimed QueerieBradshaw.com blog, writes for major news sources including VICE, Nerve, Huffington Post and Curve, and is the author of her memoir Losing It: My Life as a Sex Blogger. In 2013, Lauren founded Frisky Feminist Press (FriskyFeminist.com) as a way to enhance conversations about sexuality through educational guides, online classes and entertaining publications. A law school graduate, Lauren has spoken all over the United States and is internationally recognized for her dynamic, engaging style. In everything she does, Lauren’s goal is to educate, remove stigmas and encourage people to achieve their desires.
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4 Responses to Stuff I Love: Sweet and Rough, Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut by Sinclair Sexsmith, plus bonus giveaway of a copy of the book!

  1. trisha says:

    I would love a copy

  2. I cannot wait to snag my own copy!!!

  3. Anonymous says:

    If you’ve never been to sugarbutchchronicles you are SERIOUSLY missing out.

  4. More sweet than rough sounds sweeeeet to me. Plus, I can still use my imagination and think about the last live reading I saw.

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