Tag Archives: Andrew

Become a Citizen of Hope

On October 2, 2012, a team of surgeons at City of Hope medical center sliced open my brother and saw a body wracked with cancer. Nevertheless, they kept cutting, determined to remove what they could of this invasive leech eating him … Continue reading

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Happy Anniversary, Baby, Let’s Go to the Emergency Room, a.k.a. Love in the Time of Maladies

This afternoon, doctors are going to stick a straw into my cervix, fill my uterus up with water and try to see if they can figure out why my lower abdomen has been hurting for so long. This is not how I planned on … Continue reading

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Being Super Gay and Romantic and Very Productive, a.k.a. Where I’ve Been

Don’t you just hate it when someone gushes all about how cute and romantic their relationship is? Too !@#%ing bad because I’m about to do that right now, right here. Swoon, I’m in love. But you already knew that, didn’t … Continue reading

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Securing My Oxygen Mask First, a.k.a. I’m Going Offline for November

I used to love November. It started with dress-up and candy, sugar skulls and Día de los Muertos celebrations; flowed into my hometown rodeo, bar-be-ques and chili cook-offs, a parade filled with grown men in little cars, the longest standing … Continue reading

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The Familiarity of Emptiness, a.k.a. May He Rest in Peace

My good friend died the night before last and I hate the familiarity of this emptiness. I hate how acquainted I am with grief, with this black hole in my soul, one that keeps sucking and sucking, compelling me to … Continue reading

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Poetry: The Life of a Lake and Mary Oliver’s When Death Comes

I promised you more poetry. I promised you more intimacy and openness. I promised you words of beauty by other poets and words attempting to be beautiful by me. Here is where I make good on that promise. I went … Continue reading

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My Dad and Guy Kawasaki, a.k.a. The Importance of Talking About Feminism and Stereotyping

Right after the whole titcircle debacle, I was sent a link to an article on the Huffington Post written by Peg Fitzpatrick called “Words Have Power, Use Them Wisely.” Peg Fitzpatrick is the assistant to Guy Kawasaki, one of the … Continue reading

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Funeral Speeches

Today was my grandfather’s funeral and for it, I wrote a speech. Just like I did for my grandmother‘s and brother‘s funerals. In 18 months, I’ve written three speeches for three family members’ funerals. I’m proud of all three speeches, … Continue reading

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Navigating Sex After Grief

It’s been almost a year since DE and I broke up, a year full of horrible tragedy, grief and heartbreak. A year of change, upheaval and instability. A year in which I have not had sex. Had not. A year … Continue reading

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For My Brother, Andrew Joseph Fleming, November 21, 1986 to November 5, 2012

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the … Continue reading

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