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Sex Questions of the Day/Week #SQOTD, a.k.a. Starting Conversations About Sex

In March, I’m on the opening keynote plenary panel at Catalyst Con East (you can use code “QUEERIE” for $10 off registration), a conference intent on “sparking communications about sexuality.” For the keynote, I’ve been asked to talk about how I’m moderating … Continue reading

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Fat Rolls and Photos, a.k.a. Learning to Positively Judge My Image

When Catalyst Con announced that photos from the event were up on their website, I got very excited. I spoke three times and there was a professional photographer there, giving me high hopes for a new profile photo or something … Continue reading

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My Dad and Guy Kawasaki, a.k.a. The Importance of Talking About Feminism and Stereotyping

Right after the whole titcircle debacle, I was sent a link to an article on the Huffington Post written by Peg Fitzpatrick called “Words Have Power, Use Them Wisely.” Peg Fitzpatrick is the assistant to Guy Kawasaki, one of the … Continue reading

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My Cleavage is a Big Deal, a.k.a. A Hate Blog Posted A Picture of My Boobs from BlogHer13 As an Example of Unprofessional Behavior

When I was a kid, I got in trouble quite frequently. I was highly outspoken, realizing early on that I didn’t have to listen to what others told me to do, that I could form my own thoughts and make … Continue reading

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I Still Have Shame About Sex and I Hate It

I hate that I still have shame about sex. When I was thirteen, I went to see The Truth About Cats & Dogs with my family at the newly renovated, state-of-the-art theater two towns over. The verdict afterwards was unanimous: … Continue reading

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The Self-Deprecating Rabbit Hole

It’s amazing how quickly I can fall down the self-deprecating rabbit hole. One simple image sends a million negative thoughts racing to the front of my brain and soon I’m falling over, tripping into the void of despair, hating things … Continue reading

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Relationships: Settling For Crumbs When You Deserve Cake

I hate that point in a relationship where your love turns to frustration and everything that used to tug at your heart now yanks on your nerves. That point when you have to face how long you went without your … Continue reading

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Body Positivity: Skinny Jeans, Size 4, aka Remnants of Our Past in Our Closet

I have a pair of skinny jeans, size 4, hidden at the top of my closet. I have a lacy bra, cup size 32A, tucked underneath a pile of socks in my bottom drawer. I have Daisy Dukes (size 3, … Continue reading

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Sex: Five Years Later, My Virginity Story

I remember the night I lost my virginity. I wish I could forget it. I wish I could forget it because it traumatized me to the point of never wanting another man to ever touch me again. But I agreed … Continue reading

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Sex: I Was Afraid Of Boners

While the majority of horny teenagers in high school were experimenting with French kissing, oral sex and intercourse, I was tucked away in my safe and virginal little world.  I was so innocent, so pure, that sometimes I would convey … Continue reading

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