Author Archives: AlannaLaFemme

About AlannaLaFemme

To learn all about me, see this post I wrote as an introduction to being a new contributor for

Surviving Fear

TRIGGER WARNING: This piece contains discussions of sexual violence and assault. Some readers may find it triggering. I found out a week ago that I am friends with a rapist. My hall-mate brought our friend (a quiet, unassuming boy who … Continue reading

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A Step-by-Step Guide: How Not to Get Back with Your Ex

To be fair, this title might be a bit misleading. It might make you think I really know what I’m talking about, and have always resisted the urge to get back with an ex. Not true. My last serious relationship … Continue reading

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Sex: Sand in Places, aka Questions for the Publicly Inclined

[Editor’s note: This is part of our series on public sex/ nudity/ exhibitionism. If you’d like to share your story, email info[at]] To be perfectly honest, I’ve mostly had sex in pretty conventional locations. Some friends have stories of classroom … Continue reading

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Body Positivity: Skinny Jeans, Size 4, aka Remnants of Our Past in Our Closet

I have a pair of skinny jeans, size 4, hidden at the top of my closet. I have a lacy bra, cup size 32A, tucked underneath a pile of socks in my bottom drawer. I have Daisy Dukes (size 3, … Continue reading

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Feminist Writer’s Block, aka Why I’m Lying in Bed Instead of Working

In a recent email exchange with Queerie, I mentioned I’ve come down with a vicious case of feminist writer’s block. It might just seem like a turn of phrase to excuse why I haven’t been posting lately, but it’s far more … Continue reading

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I Like Boys (and Bois!)

Once upon a time, I almost convinced myself I was straight—because I wasn’t attracted to girly girls.   It seemed rational at the time. If I wasn’t attracted to the women I saw on TV (and in most lesbian porn … Continue reading

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Adventures in the Kitchen, aka I’m a Real Adult Now

Baked, stuffed tomatoes with sausage and rice, pasta with homemade parmesan and romano cream sauce, steamed peas, and a double-chocolate brownie cake with powdered sugar and whipped cream to top it off. If your mouth isn’t watering right now, I … Continue reading

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Sex: Virginity, the Sequel

I’d never been much of a romantic to begin with, but having my heart broken by my high school boyfriend (also my first serious relationship) three days before my graduation seemingly sealed the deal on my tenuous romantic side. Since … Continue reading

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Sex: Mother Knows Best, aka Sex Tips from my Mom

The best sex advice I’ve ever gotten wasn’t from a magazine, a website, or a step-by-step guide to blowjobs on somebody’s random Tumblr (although that last one was very helpful). No, the best sex advice I’ve ever gotten was—surprise!—from my … Continue reading

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Rapunzel, Rapunzel, Cut Off My Hair

The first time I chopped all my hair off, I was ten years old, firmly ensconced in my long-lasting tomboy phase wherein I refused any and all attempts to dress me “like a girl” and shopped exclusively in the boys … Continue reading

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